I understand, and I agree with "oftentimes X is characterized as Y... often perceived as Z".
But I'm not splitting hairs; it's a fundamental error to conflate the behavior w/ the characteristic. Someone who is neurodivergent -- just like someone who's neurotypical -- can behave in any number of ways. If they are "being a dick", the fact that they're neurodivergent _might_ help explain why (eg because they might struggle to understand others' points of view). But IMHO it's unhelpful and maybe harmful to lump them together.
But I'm not splitting hairs; it's a fundamental error to conflate the behavior w/ the characteristic. Someone who is neurodivergent -- just like someone who's neurotypical -- can behave in any number of ways. If they are "being a dick", the fact that they're neurodivergent _might_ help explain why (eg because they might struggle to understand others' points of view). But IMHO it's unhelpful and maybe harmful to lump them together.