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Not to mention, guys live the other side of the coin: you can often go months, weeks or years without a genuine compliment.

Two particular instances I remember:

- a couple of streamers in a chat, and this was brought up. One of the girls in the chat didn't believe it and yelled at her brother, who promptly answered that the most recent compliment they received that was not from their mother was 3 years ago. Cue other guys in the stream relaying the same story.

- multiple people that transitioned from female-to-male, all of them mentioning they didn't realize how lonely you are as a man in the world, and how invisible you seem to be. Some almost got suicidal because of it.



Men could fix this quite easily by starting to compliment one another, or by starting a culture of not interpreting women's compliments as come ons.


I'll bring it up at the next male convention where we all decide as a group how we should behave.


I mean it would be pretty easy to make it happen in any given friend group.

If a man has 0 male friends, that's a different problem then the way that men treat even their close friends.


When's the last time he gave a compliment?


At least one actually did commit suicide from that IIRC.




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