But that's why OK Cupid can work. It's a Bayesian prior being updated with new data, not hardline deal breakers. You and your partner made it work, but if somebody who was exactly the same as your partner in every other respect but who also had cat allergies (and I know this is not possible, never mind feasible to prove), you would from a Bayesian perspective be more compatible than you are with your partner.
Also, I don't know where you live, but I'd love to live somewhere where differing politics isn't a deal breaker in a relationship - it must be a pretty settled and stable place. Canada maybe? Switzerland? New Zealand?
I'm in the UK, and I (and I think everyone I know), absolutely 100% could not be in a relationship with somebody on the other side of the UK political spectrum any more - it's too divisive, too much has happened, it's not in the slightest bit superficial, and with all the other stuff that needs to go well to make a relationship work over the long term, throwing that in the mix as something to "make work" feels like too high a burden for me.
As such, a dating app that gets that out of the way to avoid the awkward and angry second date seems essential in this country at least.
Also, I don't know where you live, but I'd love to live somewhere where differing politics isn't a deal breaker in a relationship - it must be a pretty settled and stable place. Canada maybe? Switzerland? New Zealand?
I'm in the UK, and I (and I think everyone I know), absolutely 100% could not be in a relationship with somebody on the other side of the UK political spectrum any more - it's too divisive, too much has happened, it's not in the slightest bit superficial, and with all the other stuff that needs to go well to make a relationship work over the long term, throwing that in the mix as something to "make work" feels like too high a burden for me.
As such, a dating app that gets that out of the way to avoid the awkward and angry second date seems essential in this country at least.