The only way to learn real software engineering is on the job. It is not theory but practice. Assume you know nothing, and humble yourself to learn. It will take many years!

This is rad +

Textual is A++. Feels a bit less snappy than Ink, but it makes up in all things with its immense feature-set. Seriously fun building apps of all kinds with this lib.

It's less about praising your children, vs being honest with them! Don't give them false praise, and they'll be fine.

I believe the what the parent comment was referring to is the advice not to praise character, but instead praise hard work.

“You’re so smart” leaves room for failure when they encounter something that challenges their image of being smart. Praising the amount of effort they put in is not something that is taken away or challenged regardless of the outcome.

One of my kids are particularly brilliant and what I found is that the combination works best, "you are smart therefore I have high expectations" AND "without doing the work being smart doesn't matter". Together this creates a self image of the capable doer.

"But, hardly in my 20s at the time, I’ve wondered since what I detected in it. What did the man have to offer me, so green, so goyish? This was Bellow’s very last novel, written in his 80s. Riffing on topics of Jewishness, sickness, aging, dying, marriage, politics, history, friendship; he was a very adult sort of thinker, a mature man’s writer. Yet I was so thrilled by this that upon my return home I read all of his work, and later his essays and letters, then the multitudinous biographies, memoirs, and studies that came out in the decades following his death."

This was precisely my experience in my early 20s! And how many times have I read Humboldt's Gift?

The only requirement is curiosity. There's no "do this" with these tools. You have to learn them through constant experimentation.

The docs situation continues to be hilarious and bad, for the gem they have created.

It's the unfortunate situation where those who know, know, and those who do not, blasphemy the whole thing based on misunderstanding.

Super unfortunate, which could be solved by simply moving a little money over to Relay's docs, and working on some marketing materials.

Exactly! Once its working, it can be very healthy. And especially on the client. For a very, very, very long time. We started using GraphQL at the very beginning, back in 2015, and the way it has scaled over time -- across backend and frontend -- has worked amazingly well. Going on 10 years now and no slowing down.

We haven't been using it as long but it's definitely saved us from things that were "impossible" to associate in our microservice backend.

Love this so much! Coming from a Relay background I am happy to see its incredibly resilient and futuristic ideas start to spread outside of the GraphQL domain.

GraphQL FTW