I've never used the feature on Matrix because as you say, it doesn't really apply. Matrix (or really Element here) doesn't require you to use an identity server at all, so I don't really think it invalidates the protocol in a meaningful way.
without one clients will not be able to look up user IDs using 3PIDs, so its relatively important. hosting it yourself means having to email or message "us" in order to federate it.
So don't use a 3PID to add someone, use their MXID. It's a unique, global identifier and is similar enough to an email address.
There's also a Matrix URI specification in the works (https://github.com/matrix-org/matrix-doc/pull/2312). Once that lands, we should start seeing support for Matrix URIs in applications. This will allow applications to also start recognising MXIDs and converting them into working links, which will in turn help with people's recognition of the MXID.
So what if Github itself is not OSS? The technology behind is already open source and decentralized. You can switch to a Gitlab instance with just a few mouse clicks while also migrating your issues and pull requests.
I don't believe issues or pull requests are part of the Git repo. If there is a way to migrate them it would involve some GitHub API which could be shut down.
as much as many projects could use a clean slate here, i dont think the burden of migranting them manually or the act of just dumping them is realistic.
There are at least a few different "OSS scenes" that have different priorities. More principled, idealistic developers fall under a different category than more pragmatic ones, so it should be no surprise that they use different tools.
"Sharecropper programmers" might be an accurate way of describing developers for Apple platforms, but that's not what is happening when people use GitHub and Discord to work on open-source software. They can easily move their Git hosting and chat to another platform—they just choose to use the popular, coincidentally non-OSS, platform for its pragmatism.
A large base of existing users, easy onboarding, and good visibility makes a big difference for many OSS projects. Using a self-hosted Git hosting system and mailing list is a lot of work—and it adds a not-insignificant barrier to entry for potential contributors. What issues exist with popular, proprietary Git and chat tools that make them unsuitable for OSS development?
What are some of the considerations you're thinking of where using a popular option is not pragmatic?
It is a thing, is there enough of this thing? Is it free? Do these hosted services provide the infra and protection? Do these hosted services solve the issue of the dearth of clients for these services?
And if you look at hosted services like IRCCloud, it turns out they are not that different from Slack/Discord: closed source, for full range of capabilities you need to use their apps.
Not a comment on your post but the NixOS ecosystem in general
Probably should've used the word "dislike" instead of hate. Apologize.
As someone whose been using Nix for almost a year (not NixOS as long) I struggle that there is zero advanced write ups.
Could be because it's the same experience which is good news.
But there's a series of advanced concepts that deserve more love: custom Nix cache, distributed building, remote deployments , NixOps, writing eloquent derivations, secret management (please!), how to sanely use vim_configurable etc...
I spent a long time documenting the Maven (Java) documentation and recently had it approved.
Try to ask your IT guy, maybe he'll know more about this!